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Mediation FAQ

What Is Divorce Mediation?


Mediation is both a voluntary and a collaborative process. During sessions, I work with you to reach meaningful resolutions to each aspect of your conflict. As your mediator, I will help you understand and evaluate the options you face at each phase of the negotiation. The ultimate settlement is based on full information and a mutual understanding of your needs and interests.

In divorce mediation, I work with you to analyze your complete financial picture, including budgets, in order to help you come to sound financial agreements. This may include: characterizing and distributing marital assets; addressing liabilities and debt service; meeting your financial obligations, needs and goals going forward.

With regard to parenting arrangements, I help you craft a structure, unique to your family, that allows each of you to develop and nurture your role as a parent. The specific agreement you negotiate may include major decisions regarding how the children are raised, when they spend time with each of you and how they will be supported financially.

 

How Does the Mediation Process Work?


I meet with both of you together, for a series of sessions, each of which lasts two hours and the number of which varies from family to family.  I ensure that every aspect of a legally binding divorce agreement is discussed and you have the opportunity to consider each issue in full.  As an attorney, I am also available to draft a legally binding agreement that reflects the decisions you reach together in mediation.

 

Where Are the Sessions?


Family Mediation is currently meeting with clients remotely, over Zoom.

 

What Is the Role of the Mediator?


Throughout, I work as a neutral and non-coercive facilitator to help you arrive at decisions that work for both of you.  I take an active role, listening to each of your needs and interests, helping you analyze and generate ideas based upon your values and your family.  The ultimate decisions are yours to make together.  It is my professional commitment to assist you in arriving at a settlement that best reflects the realities of your family and the work we accomplish together during the sessions.

 

Is Mediation Right for Us?


Mediation is an alternative to litigation for people who are motivated to negotiate the terms of their separation agreement and divorce in a timely and cost-effective manner.  It is a structured and goal-oriented process.  It is also an attractive means of resolution for those who would like to craft personalized terms for their settlement.

Divorce mediation is not limited to couples who get along well.  Rather, it is often a very helpful process, even in high-conflict circumstances.  Mediation allows you to think through your priorities and options for each aspect of the decisions you face, personal, professional and financial.  Because most people mediate without an advocate (personal attorney) in the room, mediation is a particularly cost-effective process.  Moreover, the timing of the process reflects your schedules rather than a court’s calendar.

In order to participate, you each need to be able to express your point of view, understand the choices you face and speak for yourself. Where there is an imbalance of information or understanding, I strive to re-set the balance so that you are each making informed, thoughtful decisions.  Sometimes issues, particularly financial ones, can be complex. To that end, I may encourage you to engage outside experts, such as financial professionals, for additional support, analysis and information.  Other times, outside experts such as therapists or divorce coaches may provide insight and support with emotional aspects of divorce, such as how to help you and your child(ren) accept and acclimate to the changing realities of your family. I am available throughout the process to provide referrals for outside experts as needed.

 

What Is the Role of the Law in Mediation?


It is my philosophy that the law is a point of reference throughout the entire process.  In order for any agreement to be long-lasting and enforceable, it must comply with New York State Law. Additionally, actual attorney review, prior to signing an agreement, ensures full knowledge and enforceability of mediated settlements. Within that legal framework, mediation provides the space to craft highly individualized agreements that reflect your understanding of the conflict and your hopes for your future.

What Our Clients Say...

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C.A., Manhattan

“Ellie and Abby were able to help resolve a conflict that had seemed irreconcilable after months of efforts by other professionals. Their deep empathy combined with legal expertise gave me the confidence I needed to withstand the most stressful challenge of my life. Their commitment to achieve optimal results went far above and beyond all my expectations.”

–C.A., Manhattan

G.R., Brooklyn, New York

“Thank you both for all your help and hard work. You made a difficult process bearable. Thank you both for listening to me, understanding and then telling me what I needed to hear and know.”

–G.R., Brooklyn, New York

M.B., New York, New York

“I cannot recommend Abby and Ellie from Family Mediation highly enough. These two attorneys are humanistic and effective practitioners of family law. They will help you and your spouse work through any problems that may arise. They are wise and experienced and most of all, they are decent human beings who really care about their clients.”

–M.B., New York, New York

J.D., Queens, New York

“I can’t imagine two mediators with more integrity and impartiality. They guided us through the difficult process of divorce with incredible knowledge, empathy, and honesty. Because of them, we established a neutral dialogue that has continued to this day. I am deeply grateful to Family Mediation.”

–J.D., Queens, New York

A.T., New York, New York

“Without reservation, I highly recommend Abby and Ellie. They are seasoned professionals whose legal expertise and unique co-mediation teamwork model, coupled with a humanistic approach, was effective in bringing a difficult situation to an amicable conclusion.”

–A.T., New York, New York

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